This is what people judge you on, explains a Harvard psychologist
Think that your ‘dressing to impress’ or ‘cheesy smile on your face’ is something that will leave a long-lasting impression on others? But that’s not the case anymore, according to a Harvard psychologist.
The psychologist, Amy Cuddy, explained that when we meet someone, we ask ourselves two questions: Can I trust this person? And can I respect this person?
She says that when we raise these questions, it helps us measure a person’s warmth and competence. She further adds, “If someone you’re trying to influence doesn’t trust you, you’re not going to get very far; in fact, you might even elicit suspicion because you come across as manipulative.”
Cuddy is of the opinion that, “A warm, trustworthy person who is also strong elicits admiration, but only after you’ve established trust does your strength become a gift rather than a threat.”
However, these two should not be the only criteria to judge people. According to a study done in 2017, it states that even physical appearance plays a significant role in judging people. This study proved that when we judge people, we tend to use four cues, baby-faced, familiarity, fitness, and emotional resemblance. While we don’t have a control on all these four factors, fitness and the emotional resemblance is what we can always work on. So, next time you meet someone, remember the chances are that instead of judging you on the colours you wear or firmness of your handshake, the will judge on the mentioned aspects.
25.07.2018
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